Loosing your patience with your infant

by Ashley Rodrigues

07/25/2023

In an ideal world , we have infinite patience, babies go to sleep, life is instagram perfect. But let’s get real. That expectation for parenthood is unrealistic and does us ALL a disservice when life gets tough.
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You know that moment of complete desperation when baby has been crying for way too long and you are at the end of your rope. This post is for that moment when you want to scream, cry, rage, or all of the above.
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Here are some practical tools on how to reset mentally/emotionally when you get to that breaking point. Yes when. You will get to that point. We all have breaking points. It’s normal.
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And before all the Karen’s claim this horrific for “leaving a baby alone crying”. I will make this disclaimer. I am a stranger on instagram. If this makes you angry, don’t do it . I agree, walking away from a crying baby is NOT IDEAL. But you know what else is not ideal? A parent reaching their breaking point, a point of rage and brokenness with a screaming baby in their arms. And if we really want to have a conversation about safety of babies, then having a desperate caretaker is not safe for baby.
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The point is to take a few moments to step away. And return in a better place. No you won’t feel “perfect” or “reset” at all, but maybe you added a few more drops to the tank to get this baby to sleep. Honestly babies can pick up on your temperament. You will have more success if you take a break. Even if it’s hiding on the toilet for 5 minutes.
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Who has been here? This point of crazy in the throws of parenthood? How did you handle it? Did you push through? Did you walk away for a moment? Do you have any additional tips?